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6 Signs Your Spouse is Considering a Divorce

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Feb 10, 2023


Does My Wife Want a Divorce?

Is My Husband Secretly Planning Divorce? The Signs!

It’s relatively common for married couples to think about divorce. Often, these couples stay married and work through whatever trouble causes them to consider divorce in the first place. However, with roughly half of the American marriages ending in divorce, it’s clear that it’s a realistic outcome for many couples.

Have you wondered if your spouse is already thinking about it? For example, you may be concerned about your relationship’s state, or you’re interested in getting your paperwork together and considering the legal process before your spouse files, potentially giving you an edge in divorce court. No matter what, it’s essential to know what types of red flags and signs may mean your spouse is thinking of ending your marriage.

6 Signs

You stop spending as much time together.

For many couples, the first sign is that they’re more excited to spend time with other people than with a spouse. This doesn’t mean that a spouse with friends or interests outside of the relationship will end it, but it is a potential sign if it seems your spouse is finding excuses to spend time away from you. If you are doing the same, your relationship can drift apart.

The arguments have ceased.

People often assume that having a lot of arguments means that divorce is on the horizon, and it certainly can. However, a lack of arguments can also be a problem, especially if you previously found yourself at odds reasonably often. It may mean that your spouse, knowing that divorce is soon, has decided not to put the time and energy into disagreeing with you. Their silence can be telling.

They start keeping secrets.

Maybe you discovered your spouse had a secret stash of money they’ve been setting aside without telling you. You may have found out they were with their friends when they told you they had to stay late at the office. Some secrets are innocent, but things like this can be a serious red flag, especially if you previously had excellent communication skills and never kept anything from one another.

They start focusing more on their looks.

When your spouse starts becoming more obsessed with their looks and appearance, you may at first think that this is a good sign because they’re trying to bring a spark back to your relationship. While that could be true, it may also mean they’re starting to think about what other prospective partners will think of them. As a result, they may want to improve their appearance so that it’s easier to start a new relationship after the divorce.

They no longer want to talk about the future.

Most couples have short-term and long-term plans, even if they’re just as simple as where they want to go on vacation next year. If you these discussions up and your spouse brushes them, you may want to ask yourself why. Is it because they’re assuming they will already have asked for the divorce by that time, so there is no reason to make these plans?

Consider where your relationship stands today.

Alone, many of these red flag signs do not mean you’re going to get a divorce. That said, you can see how they shed some light on problems within the relationship. It’s wise to consider where your relationship stands, where it’s headed and what you can do to create the future you want.

Moving Forward?

Are you contemplating getting a divorce from your spouse or concerned they are? Then, contact our family law firm at Dalena & Bosch in Madison, Morris County, New Jersey. Our team of highly experienced, knowledgeable and compassionate divorce attorneys is here to help and guide you through this most challenging time.

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