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Complete Guide To Infidelity: To Divorce or Not

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May 29, 2021

Complete Guide To Infidelity: To Divorce or Not

Infidelity: To Divorce or Not

To divorce or not after infidelity – that is the question!

Here’s the answer: More than 746,971 Americans got divorced in 2019 alone. With so many couples calling it quits each year, though, you may be curious about when to walk away after infidelity too.

Tired of researching, “after infidelity, divorce or stay?” Check out the complete guide to infidelity below!

When to Stay After Infidelity

When it comes to relationship problems, you may be wondering: When should I stay and when should I walk away?

Making a move to file for divorce or ask for legal separation can feel like one of the most painful transitions in the world. However, dealing with infidelity in marriage doesn’t necessarily mean that your relationship is 100% over. On the contrary, these types of crises may prompt a much-needed change in your relationship. That is – if both partners are willing to work on it equally.

That being said, infidelity is still a major no-no in marriage, but it doesn’t have to be the end of your relationship. So, should you divorce or rebuild?

Here are a few simple questions you can ask yourself to speed up the process:

  • Trust your gut about your relationship (what does your intuition say?)
  • Consider past experiences (is your partner a serial cheater?)
  • Remove ego and think logically (are my feelings getting in the way?)
  • Write a list of “pros and cons” (do the pros outweigh the cons?)
  • Think about the here and now (am I happy in my relationship?)

Now, take some time to think about your answers. Depending on how you have answered most of these questions, your relationship may be worth a second chance. Otherwise, you may want to contemplate walking away!

When to Walk Away After Infidelity

If your partner has betrayed you, it can be hard to make the right decision about whether or not you should get divorced. So if you find yourself answering no to this next set of questions, divorcing your spouse may be a viable option:

  • Has your partner been honest with you about their affair?
  • Is your partner appropriately responding about the affair?
  • Do you believe that the affair is truly over?
  • Can your partner grow and learn from their experience?
  • Does your partner regret their role in their affair?
  • Are both of you willing to deal with the underlying problems?
  • Can your partner be honest and open from this point forward?
  • Was your partner honest before the affair?
  • Do you have issues carrying grudges or forgiving?
  • Would you rebuild if you were sure that the affair was over?

Pro tip: If you’ve decided that divorce is the best choice for you, hiring an experienced divorce attorney is the smartest solution!

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