We all know the story of Goldilocks and the Three Bears. The one with the little blonde girl that breaks into the home of a family of bears and proceeds to eat their food, sit in their chairs, and test out their various beds. Bad manners and terrible life choices aside, it’s a story kids love because they too are learning that some things are too hot or cold, big or little, hard or soft, and can identify with the search for something that is “just right.”
At some point, the story stops being appealing because we grow up and realize how much danger Goldilocks was in, and how foolish she was to tarry in the bears’ home. Logic tells us she should have abandoned her quest for “just right” and just escaped.
While it is good that growing wiser makes us realize some stories and choices are foolish, it is a shame that we also lose some of that childlike curiosity and drive to find something that is “just right.” We see this in the family law context all the time. Potential clients come to us in an uncomfortable situation, and all they want to do is find a way out. It doesn’t occur to them that there may be different paths forward; some that are better than others.
Finding the Path That is Right for You
That’s where we come in. It’s our job to tell our clients about all the different ways to divorce, and help them find the one that is “just right.” Everyone deserves a divorce that fits their life and helps them move forward, and that is what our firm helps clients all over North Jersey achieve.
When a client’s spouse is going to fight us on every little issue or does something to hurt our client — either physically or financially — we recommend filing for divorce as quickly as possible and preparing to litigate. Someone that disrespects and demeans you is not going to come to the negotiating table in good faith.
The attorneys on our team fight to protect our clients’ interests. We are not afraid to take on challenging cases, such as complex litigation that involves high net worth assets or bitter custody disputes.
If a client and his or her partner can commit to working together to bring a peaceful end to their relationship, collaborative divorce may be a better fit.
In a collaborative divorce, the divorcing partners recognize one another as teammates. Perhaps they own a business together or will be co-parenting for the foreseeable future. Whatever the case may be, they know that splitting up amicably will be better in the long run.
Rather than preparing for battle, the partners and their attorneys exchange all information openly and efficiently, avoiding the need to go through any formal, court-regulated discovery procedures. The focus is on crafting an agreement that will move everyone forward instead of dwelling on the past.
The role of the attorneys is significantly different in these cases than it is in any other type of divorce. The attorneys have to be as committed to finding a peaceful solution as the ex-spouses are, and that is not always easy. In fact, Dalena & Bosch is one of only a few firms in Morris County with extensive experience facilitating collaborative divorces.
What Type of Divorce Is “Just Right” For Me?
Holding Your Hand When You Need It Most
If your marriage is over, and you need someone to help you find a path forward that feels “just right,” we are here to help. Our firm’s motto, holding your hand when you need it most, is not just a catchphrase, it’s our guiding philosophy. We are here to listen, support, and guide you through the divorce process. Contact us today to schedule an initial consultation.